Right I’m just going to jump right into it today. I know this subject might make people blush including myself but it needs to be spoken about more as it is such an important part of a marriage or a relationship.
I was 4 weeks postpartum when i felt ready to have sex again.I was not comfortable taking my bra off at this point as all you mama`s will know milk can spurt out of your boobs at any time especially during intimacy. One boob was always bigger than the other which made me feel so self conscious , my husband always says these things aren’t an issue for him but i can’t help how i feel,also as i had a c-section my big red scar and belly hanging over was definitely not making me feel sexy.
When are you supposed to have sex!?
Between feeding,changing and entertaining a child, trying to feed myself , keep on top of the housework and trying to have dinner with my husband at least once a week! This seemed impossible in the first few months as soon as i sat down of an evening to watch the tv my head would start the “nodding dog act” and i would be asleep before the film even started.
I found that doing things for me showering every day, buying pretty pyjamas, going for sanity walks, asking someone to have the baby once a week helped so much, I started to feel like me again because you were someone before you were a mum and you need to remember that. Remembering who you were before you were a mum also helps with your marriage or relationship so make sure you do things for yourself if you like a glass a wine, MAKE sure you have a glass wine at least once a week.
The key to this is to make sure you find the time for each other ALWAYS! Whenever you get the chance make each other sparkle whether that’s a quicky in the morning before hubby goes to work, skipping the housework for an hour while baby naps.
My Advice is to make sex a priority, physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship and should be given some effort,even if there are nights that feel exactly like that, just a lot of effort. Just give in and let yourself enjoy it. You won’t be sorry… neither will your partner.
I would love to hear how other mummies balance their sex life with kids.