Sex After Babies

Young Couple And Baby On The Bed

Right I’m just going to jump right into it today. I know this subject might make people blush including myself but it needs to be spoken about more as it is such an important part of a marriage or a relationship.

I was 4 weeks postpartum when i felt ready to have sex again.I was not comfortable taking my bra off at this point as all you mama`s will know milk can spurt out of your boobs at any time especially during intimacy. One boob was always bigger than the other which made me feel so self conscious , my husband always says these things aren’t an issue for him but i can’t help how i feel,also as i had a c-section my big red scar and belly hanging over was definitely not making me feel sexy.

When are you supposed to have sex!?

Between feeding,changing and entertaining a child, trying to feed myself , keep on top of the housework and trying to have dinner with my husband at least once a week! This seemed impossible in the first few months as soon as i sat down of an evening to watch the tv my head would start the “nodding dog act” and i would be asleep before the film even started.

My Solution

I found that doing things for me showering every day, buying pretty pyjamas, going for sanity walks, asking someone to have the baby once a week helped so much, I started to feel like me again because you were someone before you were a mum and you need to remember that. Remembering who you were before you were a mum also helps with your marriage or relationship so make sure you do things for yourself if you like a glass a wine, MAKE sure you have a glass wine at least once a week. Six months postpartum I found our sex life was back to normal, sex in the afternoon while the baby naps, sex in the kitchen? Why not?

The key to this is to make sure you find the time for each other ALWAYS! Whenever you get the chance make each other sparkle whether that’s a quicky in the morning before hubby goes to work, skipping the housework for an hour while baby naps.

My Advice is to make sex a priority, physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship and should be given some effort,even if there are nights that feel exactly like that, just a lot of effort. Just give in and let yourself enjoy it. You won’t be sorry… neither will your partner.

I would love to hear how other mummies balance their sex life with kids.

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