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No Sex Drive!
May
I’m not sure if this really is to do with having kids or if this is just me in general?
My baby boy is 6 months old and I have been with my partner for 6 years, married 3 years. Whenever he comes near me i just do not have any urge what so ever to have sex. Most of the time I just do it because it stops him from pestering me and then I can quickly go to sleep… LOL
It’s definitely not an attraction issue as I find my husband a very attractive man, I just don’t know why I feel this way or what it is? He’s also very experienced and knows what he’s doing so it’s nothing to do with that either…
I know things are never as passionate as the early days but surely I should feel like I want to do it sometimes?? I do feel disgusting with my body at the moment too as I have gained a lot of weight since having a baby so that probably adds to it too.
Sometimes I find myself waking up from dreams of having sex with another man, what the fuck is that all about?!
Anyway, am I the only who feels like this, does this mean I need to get some help if so what help is there for me?
This is completely normal there are so many women who suffer with a low libido and it is nothing to do with their relationship with their partner. It’s hard because so many women suffer in silence with this because they don’t want to speak up and hurt their partners feelings.
I would definitely suggest speaking to a doctor about this and see if there’s anything they can reccommend, also see if there’s any books to read on how to spice things up in the bedroom.
Also… your body is AMAZING it’s just grown a human being, that makes your body the most awesome body ever!!! But if you are still struggling to come to terms with your new shape, try and eat healthy and get some exercise each day this will help you feel like you again and hopefully feel attractive in the bedroom with your husband again.
This can be normal after kids or just sometimes in general. I have a very high sex drive and always have but after my first born was born I lost it complety for about 6months if more. After my second child I found I didnt loose it atall so I think it can be all due to stress , to much pressure life everything really. Try and priortise yourself self care eating healthy and Im sure it will come back. Also i think talking to your husband will help explain to him its normal after babies and express yourself. Also maybe try watching naughty movies together to get you both in the mood at the same time this always works for us.
my number 1 tip is to work on yourself! get yourself in a place where you are proud and confident of yourself and your body and the rest will follow trust me 🙂