My Second Baby

I am 29 years old and I have a daughter who is almost 5 and started school this September.

She is so lovely and kind and I’m so proud of her, she is beautiful, she lights up a room and everyone absolutely adores her! I’m a single mum and her dad is still around and he helps out a lot, so we’re a really happy blended family both with new partners but no younger children added to the mix yet.

I’ve been with my new partner for over two years now and we’re starting to think about having a second baby – But I’m so worried about so many things!

Will I love my second baby as much as my first?

Will I struggle having less free time if I’m not splitting custody with a parent that I’m separated from?

Have I just got my life back now my daughter is in school – do I want to do nursery and school runs again?

Have I forgotten how isolated and crappy being a single parent felt the first time?

Have I forgotten how hard the newborn stage is?

Have I forgotten how expensive the newborn stage is? And then nursery fees?

Have I forgotten how hard pregnancy can be?

What would happen if I became a single mum to two children with different dads?

If my new partner do have a baby and aren’t a ‘broken home’ and are a family unit – will my daughter feel or be left out?

I just have a million thoughts going through my head and I’m not sure whether a second baby is the right decision!

Please let me know what you all think and any advice is welcome!

4 thoughts on “My Second Baby

  1. Anonymous says:

    I think if you and your partner feel ready for a baby then 100% yes. All these little things you are worrying about now none of them will matter when your baby is born trust me us mums are tough and get through a lot of things without even realizing we can. Your daughter is also at a lovely age to help you out with the baby and she wont feel left out because when she is in school you can have 1 to 1 with the baby and when she is home make it all about her. I am a mother of two children (aged 9 and 3) and both my children have different dads but we make it work and if anything there is more love , my eldest stays at her dads house twice a week and they also have another child and she is with us for the rest of the week so really she is lucky she has two families who love her sooo much and she is happy with the way everything is.I think your just worrying to much and everything will be fine.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I have 2 children under 5 and would love another one but they are just soooo expensive I have kept everything from my other children moses baskets, clothes, prams etc but Im just worried about when they all get older and Christmas times , holidays. Do you think one more child will make a big difference to all of that?

  3. Anonymous says:

    I have just found out I am pregnant and my little boy has just turned 4 months old. This was not planned and im not really sure how both of us our feeling about this as we have just recently had a first little boy and finding it quite difficult as he has colic badly but we tried for him for nearly 3 years and this is why we didn’t think about contraception. Has anyone else had a child this close in age im not gonna lie i am petrified

  4. Anonymous says:

    I found out I was pregnant when my little girl was just starting school. She was 5 when we had our 2nd girl earlier this year. I was worried about the age gap and starting again but i needn’t of worried.
    The age gap isn’t a problem at all. She still feels included and loved as much as before and is also a really big help. However she is old enough to understand that some of my time needs to be given to the younger one. Sometimes this causes a little upset but I make sure I give her the equal amount of alone time.
    Babies are expensive but no more than a five year old. You tend to me more sensible 2nd time round as you know what you need and what is not a necessity e.g. Bath thermometers.
    Every pregnancy is different so it might not be the same as the first.
    I’m so happy that we had our 2nd child, I thought I wouldn’t love her the same as my first as we have such a special bond and spend most our time together. but it’s not a problem, there’s enough love for everyone. Though I do still feel closer to my first daughter than my second. As the youngest gets older and develops a personality I feel closer to her.
    I hope this helps, it was the right decision for us x

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