Nowadays I feel like if a birth isn’t announced on Instagram or Facebook, then did it even happen? It’s crazy the world we live in now, and how mum culture is portrayed on social media. (just my opinion)
When I was pregnant with my first child, my husband told me how he would like to keep photos of our little girl off social media, at least until 40 days had passed. This was due to culture and the belief of the evil eye (nazar)
As 40 days passed, I got used to concealing my little girl’s identity in photo’s across social media that I began to feel strongly about not wanting to post them at all. I can’t really explain the feeling, I just wanted to keep her to myself, private, just for us. I didn’t want mom’s discussing how “beautiful” or how “ugly” my child was – yes some mom’s talk about that kinda stuff unfortunately!
I love that people interested in my kid actually ask me about her. Believe it or not, receiving messages from friends or long lost childhood friends asking to see photos of her was so much more gratifying than watching the likes roll in. I mean, why have the anxiety of not receiving X amount of likes on your posts when no number can place value on how special that moment and how precious your child is to you.
It also removes the awkwardness of telling someone about your child and what they’ve done when you meet up with someone in real life trying to work out if they have already seen it on social media.
Although it was difficult at times, I felt like I was secluding myself from the mommy groups and mom culture and not celebrating her milestones, but all in all, it was the right decision for us.
I would love to hear mom’s thoughts on this, and for those who do not post photos of their children, what was your reasoning?
I totally respect moms who post photos of their children too by the way!