We all face parenting problems while on the roller coaster of raising kids. We have are ups and downs but its by far the most rewarding job ever and i try and remember that even on my lowest of days.
Facing Judgment, Shame
When your child has tantrums or yelling, disobeying you or being annoying, you’ve probably gotten “the look “from strangers walking by you know that one that says “fucking control your child”. Well it can make you feel like a terrible mum even though we know that we are doing everything we can to raise our children the best we know.
Truth is its human nature for people to judge so no matter what decision we make we will always be judged, so next time your child is playing up outside stop and remind yourself you cannot read other peoples mind, the more we try to read other peoples mind the more negative thoughts run through our head and effect our parenting.
This is a huge struggle for a lot of mums, i know it is a huge one of mine. I often think of the worst scenarios and play the “what if” game which is stopping me from living in the moment. Fear that something bad will happen to my child , that i am not a good mum. These haunting voices of doubt can be relentless, it can take our joy and confidence away from parenting.When we take a step back and look at what is really in front of us here and now this can often help us focus on what is going on right now.
Does your baby do this yet ? Is ” a game ” a lot of new mums like to play with other mums who have babies the same age. Normal as it is, comparing can be a recipe for stress. It can also prevent us from fully appreciating what our kids are accomplishing.
How do you stop comparing when your friends are saying my baby was running by his first birthday (my child is now 14 months old and still not walking). All babies are completely different in every way, when it comes to mile stones sitting up, crawling and walking this varies widely.
I would love to hear other mum struggles and tips on them.