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Help! My Hubby Wants To Circumcise Our Baby!
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Feb
Feb
Hi guys,
I have a 4 month old baby boy and my muslim husband is insisting he is circumcised. He feels SO strongly about it and just will not listen to me when I tell him I don’t want it done. I feel like he should have the choice as this is such a massive thing that you can never go back on. I am english, what if my son decides he wants to live in England where circumcision is not as popular? The reasons go on and on as to why I do NOT want my son to be circumcised.
It’s so sad because it made me actually dread having a baby boy because I just knew this was going to happen. I honestly don’t know what to do, please help!
This is a massive part of marriage – meeting in the middle. So your husband wants your baby to be circumcised, why not meet in the middle and suggest waiting til he is a little older to make the decision for himself. I know a lot of people who have it done when theyre 8, 12 years old etc, and they throw parties for it and that way the child will know what is happening to his body. That way you are not completely closing the door on the idea but you are putting your foot down on your baby boy not having a choice.
I get what you are saying but his arguement with this is “what 8 year old boy will agree to it, they would be petrified!, of course they will say no when asked at that age and when they’re an adult its a much bigger procedure.”
Tell your husband to jog on! it’s genital mutilation! It’s NOT ok when it’s done to a female so why should it be any different to males? You are made a certain way for a reason…
It’s not genital mutilation … FGM is removal of the clitoris to prevent sexual arousal in women and it is illegal. FGM comes with severe health implications and has no benefits at all. Circumcision on the other hand, is carried out on male children and has proven health benefits such as, reduced chance of UTIs and sexually transmitted diseases. It is also said to benefit the female partner by reducing the chance of cervical cancer. Of course, everyone is free to choose what they do with their male children but ignorant comments like these spread hate and fear amongst people.
It is genital mutilation! And it’s a huge thing that should be the choice of the child and the child alone, unless for medical reasons. It is also not really proven to have any benefits, most men in the UK and Ireland have not had it done and are able to keep themselves clean and to no get UTIs so that’s not a good enough excuse to get it done. It’s cruel and barbaric! Someone could say the exact same reasons for FGM, would that then be okay for them to get it done?
You must complain with his will he is your husband he is male like your son and his father. Hope it went well and if not able of stand it step aside.Males issues. (Not saing this as descrimination I believe equal rights.)
I have a 9 year old who we got circumsized when he was 2, his dad is also circumsized but not for religious reasons for health and same with my son. I personally prefer it as I think its a lot more hygienic but each to their own. Personally I think this should of been discussed before you had a baby if its a big thing to you both. I think now you both need to see each others side, if your not reglious and he is and you want your son to be then I think that would be best but if your not happy about it stand your ground and tell him.
I think women look better with labiaplasty so all women should have it. You are very arrogant and no business being a mother.
This is hard but you have to forget what your family and friends tell you. What do you want for your baby? Voice it to your husband, try and find a middle ground somehow. It is hard I know.
I would not do it at all! It’s cruel! Unless for medical reasons it is totally unnecessary. Your child should have the choice themselves when they are old enough. If it was put forward to do it to a female baby, everyone would be up in arms, but because it’s a Male baby it’s okay? Neither is okay to me. There is no additional benefits to it. I would put my foot down and not budge on the situation, unnecessary and unneeded procedure that will cause your little baby so so so much pain, and for what?
I completely understand where your head is at, I’ve been there. I’m a Muslim revert and have married a born Muslim.. it’s extremely hard with culture clashes. From an Islamic perspective it is very important for all boys to be circumcised, the healing process for babies is so much faster and less traumatic, after a few minutes of crying it will all be over. The health benefits are endless too. If it was me in your position I would go ahead with it, you don’t need to be there either. Otherwise your son will have a strange identity crisis when he is older if he is to be Muslim.. maybe that’s worth a consideration. Like I said your husband should respect you, if he married a non Muslim what did he expect?
There is absolutely no need to circumcise a child unless medically advised, fgm is illegal, why should it be different for boys
There is no need to be worried if you go to a specialist. I went to a clinic in Leyton were there are specialist doctors that do the circumcision, I done my son when he was about 5weeks, me and my husband were watching everything from start to finish, they do numb the area so the baby doesn’t feel anything, my son was a little upset for a day or 2 but recovered within a week. Circumcision is nothing like fgm they only get rid of the top layer or skin for hygiene reasons, more cons then pros for the people that think it’s illegal. The healing process for a baby is quicker then an older child so it’s best to do it as a baby, also if your married to Muslim man then know that circumcision is very crucial, religious or non religious there are a lot of benefits to it
this is a really good comment that does not shame anyone who does choose to have their child circumcised. I personally do not judge anyone who chooses to or chooses not to do this, like you say there are reasons to both sides. I think we have to becareful with our words as they are more powerful than we know!
It actually is comparable to FGM but you’ll always day it’s not as you decided to do it to your son♀️
I’m not a Muslim but I know Muslims get this done on there new born boys, I genuinely think it’s something I would do if I have boys as there are more pro benefits than cons, I can understand why you’d want the child to choose but I kind of agree that at an older age it is less bearable and child may be likely to say no. I definitely think this should be discussed between the two of you, and both of you need to understand each other and if you do decide to do it then now is the best time. Best of luck to you both 🙂
you are a disgrace! people like you should not have children. Most parents in europe don’t mutilate children. You’re either a inbred american or a dumbass.
you are actually soo brain dead ffs. do correct research. how dare you call someone disgraceful when it actually has sooo many health benefits in doing so. Read about it or does your brain struggle to understand anything at all
We are from the Uk & We decided not to circumcise our sons even low my husband is circumcised I think my husband has a nice cock I personally prefer uncircumcised.
So what decision did you make did you circumcise or not.
We are from the Uk & We decided not to circumcise our sons even low my husband is circumcised I think my husband has a nice cock but I personally prefer uncircumcised.
So what decision did you make did you circumcise or not.
I’m in the same situation. My partner has gone ahead and booked him in next week and it’s making me sick with worry that my wee boy is going to go through that pain 🙁 did you go ahead with ur little ones?
You do realise that they need permission from both parents though?.
Just say no. Such a barbaric process.
Notice how the Muslim men are bullying there “wifes” into abusing their own child. It won’t stop at circumcision. Just wait until they start making other demands too.
For gods sakes talk to a urologist about this not the internet!! There is so much misinformation and political beliefs about circumcision go to your doctor for gods sake lady.
No one should impose irreversible procedures on those who are beyond any possibility of consent or understanding. The world is changing and do you really think a decade or two down the line any child would appreciate having such a procedure forced on them in their infancy?
Rohan Jolly
Can I ask what you decided with? Having the same problem
also in the same position. My Muslim partner is going ballistic because I don’t want to put our 5 month old son through it. He says I’ve led him on all these years and not following religious protocols but now he’s here, I just feel different with everything, it breaks my heart putting my son through pain. I’m so stressed with all the cultural differences and I just don’t feel the same anymore but stuck here in this mess! I’m scared of so many things. Anything going through similar and would like to chat that would be great x
Is it already done? If so hope all went fine! I fully understand your husband and also full understand you. This is a very spliting issue to me if whan talk about very seriously about all perspectives and reasons pro and against please feel free here or privatly maleiteira@gmail.com
what did you do in the end? let’s talk private x
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it’s important for Muslim baby boy , because, in Islam, the child fellows the religion of his/her Muslim parent.