Help! My Hubby Wants To Circumcise Our Baby!

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Hi guys, 

I have a 4 month old baby boy and my muslim husband is insisting he is circumcised. He feels SO strongly about it and just will not listen to me when I tell him I don’t want it done. I feel like he should have the choice as this is such a massive thing that you can never go back on. I am english, what if my son decides he wants to live in England where circumcision is not as popular? The reasons go on and on as to why I do NOT want my son to be circumcised. 

It’s so sad because it made me actually dread having a baby boy because I just knew this was going to happen. I honestly don’t know what to do, please help!

14 thoughts on “Help! My Hubby Wants To Circumcise Our Baby!

  1. Anonymous says:

    This is a massive part of marriage – meeting in the middle. So your husband wants your baby to be circumcised, why not meet in the middle and suggest waiting til he is a little older to make the decision for himself. I know a lot of people who have it done when theyre 8, 12 years old etc, and they throw parties for it and that way the child will know what is happening to his body. That way you are not completely closing the door on the idea but you are putting your foot down on your baby boy not having a choice.

    • Anonymous says:

      I get what you are saying but his arguement with this is “what 8 year old boy will agree to it, they would be petrified!, of course they will say no when asked at that age and when they’re an adult its a much bigger procedure.”

  2. Anonymous says:

    Tell your husband to jog on! it’s genital mutilation! It’s NOT ok when it’s done to a female so why should it be any different to males? You are made a certain way for a reason…

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s not genital mutilation … FGM is removal of the clitoris to prevent sexual arousal in women and it is illegal. FGM comes with severe health implications and has no benefits at all. Circumcision on the other hand, is carried out on male children and has proven health benefits such as, reduced chance of UTIs and sexually transmitted diseases. It is also said to benefit the female partner by reducing the chance of cervical cancer. Of course, everyone is free to choose what they do with their male children but ignorant comments like these spread hate and fear amongst people.

      • Anonymous says:

        It is genital mutilation! And it’s a huge thing that should be the choice of the child and the child alone, unless for medical reasons. It is also not really proven to have any benefits, most men in the UK and Ireland have not had it done and are able to keep themselves clean and to no get UTIs so that’s not a good enough excuse to get it done. It’s cruel and barbaric! Someone could say the exact same reasons for FGM, would that then be okay for them to get it done?

  3. Anonymous says:

    I have a 9 year old who we got circumsized when he was 2, his dad is also circumsized but not for religious reasons for health and same with my son. I personally prefer it as I think its a lot more hygienic but each to their own. Personally I think this should of been discussed before you had a baby if its a big thing to you both. I think now you both need to see each others side, if your not reglious and he is and you want your son to be then I think that would be best but if your not happy about it stand your ground and tell him.

  4. Anonymous says:

    This is hard but you have to forget what your family and friends tell you. What do you want for your baby? Voice it to your husband, try and find a middle ground somehow. It is hard I know.

  5. Anonymous says:

    I would not do it at all! It’s cruel! Unless for medical reasons it is totally unnecessary. Your child should have the choice themselves when they are old enough. If it was put forward to do it to a female baby, everyone would be up in arms, but because it’s a Male baby it’s okay? Neither is okay to me. There is no additional benefits to it. I would put my foot down and not budge on the situation, unnecessary and unneeded procedure that will cause your little baby so so so much pain, and for what?

  6. Anonymous says:

    I completely understand where your head is at, I’ve been there. I’m a Muslim revert and have married a born Muslim.. it’s extremely hard with culture clashes. From an Islamic perspective it is very important for all boys to be circumcised, the healing process for babies is so much faster and less traumatic, after a few minutes of crying it will all be over. The health benefits are endless too. If it was me in your position I would go ahead with it, you don’t need to be there either. Otherwise your son will have a strange identity crisis when he is older if he is to be Muslim.. maybe that’s worth a consideration. Like I said your husband should respect you, if he married a non Muslim what did he expect?

  7. Anonymous says:

    There is absolutely no need to circumcise a child unless medically advised, fgm is illegal, why should it be different for boys

  8. Anonymous says:

    There is no need to be worried if you go to a specialist. I went to a clinic in Leyton were there are specialist doctors that do the circumcision, I done my son when he was about 5weeks, me and my husband were watching everything from start to finish, they do numb the area so the baby doesn’t feel anything, my son was a little upset for a day or 2 but recovered within a week. Circumcision is nothing like fgm they only get rid of the top layer or skin for hygiene reasons, more cons then pros for the people that think it’s illegal. The healing process for a baby is quicker then an older child so it’s best to do it as a baby, also if your married to Muslim man then know that circumcision is very crucial, religious or non religious there are a lot of benefits to it

    • Anonymous says:

      this is a really good comment that does not shame anyone who does choose to have their child circumcised. I personally do not judge anyone who chooses to or chooses not to do this, like you say there are reasons to both sides. I think we have to becareful with our words as they are more powerful than we know!

  9. Anonymous says:

    I’m not a Muslim but I know Muslims get this done on there new born boys, I genuinely think it’s something I would do if I have boys as there are more pro benefits than cons, I can understand why you’d want the child to choose but I kind of agree that at an older age it is less bearable and child may be likely to say no. I definitely think this should be discussed between the two of you, and both of you need to understand each other and if you do decide to do it then now is the best time. Best of luck to you both 🙂

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