Having a baby to a new partner

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I am 29 years old and will be 30 in less than 2 months, I have two children 4 and 6. I have been with my new partner for just under 3 years now and he really wants us to have a baby together as he is 5 years older than me and thinks these are the last few years for us. This will be his first baby as my children have a different father. I dont really want another baby I am fine with the two children I have but I know how much he would love a baby of his own but Im just not sure I can do it. What are your thoughts on this?

4 thoughts on “Having a baby to a new partner

  1. Anonymous says:

    This is such a hard decision because I understand that your partner wants a child as he doesn’t have any of his own and this is a big thing for him but I also think you should not have a baby if you do not want one. You are best just sitting down and talking about this properly with your partner exactly how you are feeling and that you dont think you can do it all over again if he really loves you he will understand and stick by you.

  2. Anonymous says:

    okay this can swing two ways, i do think its so important to discuss children at the start of the relationship because if you both want different things it can be a deal breaker and save you the wasted time of continuing a relationship that isnt going fulfil your needs. although i get it, its too late for that now, so one of you will have to sacrifice something they want and dont want, who will that be?

    • Anonymous says:

      Have you spoken to your partner about this? This needs to be spoken about in deep conversation about how you both feel about this and what you can do. If you really love each other you can work through this you just need to decide what is best for all of you.

  3. Anonymous says:

    I think like previous posters have asked- have you spoken to your partner about your thoughts on having another baby?

    I have a daughter and was with her father for 13years
    We split last year and I met someone, a few years younger than myself.

    I never intended on having anymore children. I was quite happy that I had my daughter.
    However, my current partner had no children and wanted to have a family. If I didn’t love him the way I do, I don’t think I would’ve still had anymore children.

    But at the same time, I couldn’t stay with him & feel like I was holding him back from something he truly wanted. We were fortunate and blessed to fall pregnant & I know he will be a great father.

    I think any child brought into this world should be conceived with love and want from both sides.

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