Friendships and Becoming a Mummy

3 women in hats sat on a bench by water

It’s quite sad really, but unfortunately true… once you become pregnant or have a baby of your own you will notice some of your friends (those without children) will back away.

I used to think it was because were no longer on the same stage in life, but my best friend had her children a good few years ago now before I had my first child and this has never effected us, in fact it made us even closer.

The friends you would go to the gym with, go to parties with, go on active trips together with would slowly fizzle away. The coffee dates you would plan together are cancelled, messages are ignored or replied to when its too late, and you just no longer have anything in common anymore. Sometimes I feel like the odd texts i’d receive such as “need a catch up soon, hope you’re okay” are just a way to validate they’ve attempted to keep in contact when in reality, actions speak louder than words. 

Have you mummies experienced this with your friends? have you lost anyone during the transition to motherhood? Why do you think this is?

4 thoughts on “Friendships and Becoming a Mummy

  1. Anonymous says:

    yes unfortunately this happens, not everyone grows at the same time and you can drift… it’s sad but i guess the ones who are meant to stay in your life will and those who don’t just teach you a lesson and provide you with memories 🙂

  2. Anonymous says:

    The main thing you need to remember about friends is the ones that stay are the ones they are your true friends! All the other friends are just basically seasons come and go when they need you but not matter the situation your real friends will always be there especially in pregnancy. Friends should be excited to see their friends bring a little miracle into the world and to make a bond with them thats what true friends are all about!

  3. Anonymous says:

    I have lost so many friends since becoming a mummy but do you know what i learnt I only need my precious little baby and my parents. Try not to worry to much as its there loss, if you have a close friendship with someone and they turn on you at the most magical time then all i can say is its their loss and no one else.

  4. Anonymous says:

    I am going through all this right now! I have a 10 month old little boy and basically since the day I found out I was pregnant I have lost a lot of friends! Friends who just didn’t bother with me anymore or asked how my pregnancy was or even how I was doing, and when my son was born the friend I used to class as a close friend didn’t meet him until he was 2 months old,”To Busy” she said. Im sorry but you can always find 10 minutes when you live round the corner and have your own car. This is something really close to my heart because I used to think my friends would be my friends forever and now they are like strangers and to be honest if they dont want to try I dont want people like that in my life anymore.

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