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Expanding The Brood!
Jun
When I was younger I used to dream of having a huge close knit family all living in a gigantic house. 5 was my number, when I was a child it was 7! “yeah i’ll be the mother to 7 children I thought!”
So far I have two children, 4 and 6 and I have been faced with all kinds of challenges and adventures; life is certainly eventful let’s put it this way! However my dream of having a large family has never really diminished, despite the craziness of it all, the dirty nappies, the tantrums, the mess, the CHAOS.
So although the dream hasn’t wavered, I am currently at that point where “should i have another one?” I feel like I’ve only just got my life back for myself as my youngest has now started full-time education. Yet there’s this niggling little voice on my shoulder reminding me of the magical times from pregnancy, that newborn smell, those first wobbly steps….
Another thing I know I need to consider is the costs! Who knew something so small could cost so much and need SO much stuff! Saying that though, your first child will always be the most expensive with costs only increasing slightly as you expand the brood as clothes can be reused, toys, furniture and bedrooms can be shared etc… It’s important though to consider whether you are financially able to expand your brood.
So currently I’m stuck in limbo as to whether I want another child, I guess time will tell!
This is exactly what I am going through at the moment, I have identical twin girls who are now 5. I always wanted two quite close together and that was enough for us but as I had twins I feel I would like another as i only experienced one pregnancy I am sort of craving another but I am shooting myself in the foot by going back to all these crazy days when my twins have just started school ??
I Think there is a lot to think about when trying for more children, I believe money is a massive thing when its comes to having children, before the age of 5 children dont actually cost that much its when they get older and start school, need pocket money, new clothes, trips with schools, new trainers and also Christmas and birthdays they start wanting bigger things like a phone for example. Also I believe your relationship needs to be brought into this do you and your partner need more time together ? after spending the last 6 years looking after your children. If you are both ready for another baby and will still get enough time to be there for each other then yes but it should be 100% from both parents.
This is a verrrry tricky one as everyone is different, only you and your partner can decide on this. Deep down I think most of us mums will forever get broody now and then its in our nature we love babies! But they do grow up and to wild teenagers and this is what has made me realize Im done. I have 3 girls all under 6 and I love them all to pieces and would happily have one more tomorrow but I need to remember I am going to have 3 teenagers from 13-18 and that is going to be another rollercoaster Im sure.