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Do I deserve the chance to be a mum?
May
Hi I feel like I need to just get things of my chest and some advice from people that actually dont know me. Im 29 now and recently just got married. When I was 18 I had a little girl but her father died when I was just four months pregnant. We didnt plan for a baby but we came to terms with becoming parents at such a young age, but after he died I couldnt go through it on my own and the thought of raising a baby by myself was scary but mainly SAD! All I could think about was him, I cried all the time I never got over this. I decided to give my baby up when she was born I thought she would have a better life with a proper family. Its been over 10 years now and of course I think about this all the time, I think about her what she looks like, if she hates me. My Husband now wants to start trying for a baby but I really cant as much as I would love to be a mum, it doesnt feel right! I mean I gave one child away how could I even deserve a chance to be a mother! I cant talk to my husband about this in so much detail because he tells me what I want to hear that I deserve to be a mum and I was young.
But this is still not an excuse I gave my little girl away and I regret it everyday how could I ever replace her!
oh hun dont feel like you don’t deserve to be a mum, of course you do. you had your reasons as to why you did what you did, and you did what you thought was best. You clearly wasn’t in the right frame of mind to be a mother at that time and so you gave your daughter to a loving family.
You are not trying to replace your daughter, she will always have her own special place in your heart. Go ahead and try for a baby, you can’t live in guilt for forever <3